Hey Good Girls! As you may know, I'm getting married next February...as long as this quarantine is over.
One of the most exciting parts of planning your wedding is selecting your Bridal Party. For me, it was super easy, because I already had my girls in mind before I even became a Feyonce! Here's a breakdown of how I created proposal boxes for my 8 bridesmaids...better known as the #ShayHive!
First off, I have to say that there's no right or wrong way to propose to YOUR bridesmaids. I've seen super extravagant, over-the-top gestures done along with simplistic ones and
the bottom line is: DO WHAT WORKS FOR YOU AND YOUR BUDGET!
I cannot stress this enough. There will be sooooo many other costs you'll need to factor into your budget. So out of all the things you may stress about.....bridesmaid proposals should definitely NOT be on that list lol
Your tribe will be appreciative of anything you come up with, because the honor is in being chosen to stand by your side on one of the biggest days of your life.
Now on a sidenote, you also have the option of doing what my fiance' did for his friends which was....absolutely nothing. (Men! lol) First, he called them up one by one, and asked (which was cute) then he threw them all in a group chat....
But if you're reading this, then you're probably not interested in taking that route, so I got you!
STEP 1: Choose your boxes
This will be A LOT easier if you're in the vicinity of all or most of your bridesmaids. Unfortunately, none of my girls live in Houston so I had to each box. This can get expensive depending on the size of your package, (but I'll get into that later.)
I shopped around to find the most cost efficient boxes for the size I wanted. I decided to go boxes from Happy Bride Designs on Etsy. The size is 8x8x4, and they come flat but were super easy to assemble (took me like 5 seconds per box). You have the option of customizing everything from the font to the colors!
Step 2: What to put inside?
So this was a little bit difficult for me, because I love my girls so much I wanted to fill it with all kinds of personalized items and cute treats. However, I had to stop myself from going overboard, because you know I have to stick to my #BougieBrideBudget of course.
Plus you have to keep in mind, there will be plenty of opportunities to shower them with more gifts during bachelorette festivities later.
So, here's what I did:
I created custom cards on Zazzle. I've used the site for business cards in the past, and they always came through with great pricing and quality prints. The day I ordered my cards, there was a 50% off promo going on, but if you don't see a promo when you're ordering you can always sign up for a free account with your email. They'll send your a 20% off code to use immediately.
You can choose from a million templates or make your design from scratch. I chose a template, but then customized the design to my liking with colors to match the box, and added a message on the front, inside, and back.
I ordered custom stemless champagne flutes from Madison Foundry on Etsy. I thought about getting glass ones, but that would've been even more money for shipping. So these hard plastic ones worked just fine, and will be super cute in pics!
I found packs of notebooks from Hobby Lobby. (If you don't live near one, you can find some at your local Michael's craft store or a similar place). I figured these would come in handy for my girls during the planning process.
There will be plenty of times where we will have to communicate and I'll give random updates, so what better way to keep track of all this than a cute new notebook!? (Okay, sure some of them will probably just keep updates in their phone notes, but still...lol)
I found some dope pens on Amazon. Lucky me, they came in a pack of eight! They also included a nice little velvet bag to put them in.
I attempted to order custom compact mirrors with each bridesmaid's name on it, BUT the company's customer service was trash! I ordered the mirrors in early January, and by mid February I had to file a complaint with Etsy to get my money back.
This was really surprising though, because they had a 4.5 star rating and hundreds of positive reviews, but I won't put them on blasts since they eventually shipped the package. It just arrived a week after I had already sent my boxes.
Lastly, I threw in a mini bottle of Jack Daniels because....why not!?
Step 3: Deliver
So this is where things got a little more pricey for me, because my bridesmaids are spread out from Cali, to Florida, to Charlotte, to VA, to Brooklyn! If you're going to need to ship any of your boxes, I would suggest using a large polymailer with bubble liner inside.
This would be the least expensive. However, you will run the risk of the box getting messed up like one of mine did, but 7 out of 8 arrived just fine. If you don't want to risk it, you can pay for the cardboard box mailers, and also add the fragile shipping label, which will run you about $10 extra per box with the regular U.S. postal service.
For obvious reasons, I was not about to pay an extra $80 lol but if you have a smaller amount to ship then adding that fee might work better for you! If you're local, then of course delivering your boxes in person would be the best option.
One of my bridesmaids, Nicole, got married a few years ago and I was in a part of her bridal party. She invited us to dinner, and gave us a card with a custom wine bottle.
It was super thoughtful, and of course a reason for us to get all dressed up and eat! If I lived close to my girls, I definitely would've chosen to do something similar.
So again, you should do what's best for you! No matter what, your girls will be thankful that you took the time to create a special "proposal" just for them!
My Bride Tribe loved their proposals, and I can't wait to celebrate with them in the future. Shoutout to the #ShayHive!!!
Let me know in the comments on IG if you have any questions or general feedback!